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What is Psychosexual Therapy?
Psychosexual therapy is a form of talking therapy that focuses on sexual difficulties, intimacy, and relationship concerns. It explores both the physical and emotional aspects of sex, including desire, arousal, performance anxiety, pain, shame, trauma, and communication between partners.
I do not offer this specific type of therapy but a trusted colleague who can assist is Maria who is a female sex therapist or psychosexual therapist, a sex professional who can help deal with sex and intimacy therapy. Maria can be contacted here to arrange a free initial consultation
Rather than just looking at symptoms, a clinical sexologist in therapy helps you understand the psychological, relational, and behavioural factors that may be affecting your sex life, in a confidential and safe setting. It also helps you understand and explore solutions or ways forward.
Psychosexual therapy is not sex surrogacy and does not involve any physical touch.
Most questions around what do sex therapists do sit at the intersection of:
Shame
Fear of being abnormal
Relationship anxiety
Attachment wounds
Performance pressure
Trauma
Compulsive coping
Sex and Intimacy Therapy
Why do people see a Psychosexual Therapist
Intimacy is one of the most important parts of many relationships, yet it’s also one of the hardest things to talk about openly. Many people carry quiet worries about their sex life but feel unsure how to raise them with a partner, a friend, or even a professional.
As a result, people often turn to the internet or AI to ask questions they may feel too embarrassed to say out loud. Questions about desire, performance, connection, anxiety and communication are incredibly common.
The truth is that intimacy changes over time in many relationships. Stress, life transitions, emotional distance, health issues and expectations about sex can all influence how couples experience closeness. These changes are more common than most people realise.
A psychosexual therapist, or sex professional can help to work through the underlying causes of sexual problems and find ways forward that are more satisfying.
How psychosexual therapy can help
Psychosexual therapy provides a confidential and supportive space to explore intimacy difficulties without blame or judgement.
Rather than focusing only on the physical aspects of sex, therapy often looks at the wider emotional and relational context. This might include communication patterns, performance anxiety, expectations around intimacy, past experiences, and the emotional connection between partners.
For many couples, simply being able to talk openly about intimacy with a trained therapist can be an important first step.
With understanding, patience and the right support, many people find that intimacy can become more relaxed, connected and fulfilling again.
Maria is a psychosexual therapist and can be contacted here to arrange a free initial consultation
What type of sexual problems do you work with?
loss of erection during intercourse
sexual arousal for women
male sex problem
marriage and sex counselling
low male libido causes
sexual arousal cycle
Is it normal to not want sex in a relationship?
Why do I feel anxious before sex?
Why can’t I orgasm even though I’m attracted to my partner?
Is it normal to lose erections sometimes?
Why do I only feel aroused by porn?
Why do I avoid intimacy even though I love my partner?
Why do I feel disgust or guilt after sex?
Why does sex feel emotionally overwhelming?
Can psychosexual therapy save a relationship?
What do you do in sex therapy as a couple?
Can I do sex therapy online?
How do we fix mismatched libido?
My partner wants more sex than me – what do we do?
How do we rebuild intimacy after an affair?
Why do I shut down during intimacy?
Can therapy help with performance anxiety?
Why can’t I stop thinking about sex?
What is compulsive sexual behaviour?
Can therapy help sex addiction?
Why do I sabotage relationships with sex?
Why do I lose my erection with someone I care about?
Why do I feel pressure to perform?
How do I fix premature ejaculation naturally?
Can therapy help performance anxiety?
Why is sex painful?
How to increase sexual arousal in women
Why don’t I feel desire anymore?
Why do I feel numb during sex?
Why do I struggle to orgasm?
How do I feel confident sexually?
Limerence - what is limerence?
How long does it take to cure vaginismus?
What do Sex Therapists Do?
Where can I find a sexologist in London?
What is sex and intimacy therapy?
Sex and intimacy therapy - sex problems in men - ladies sex problems

Derek Flint - Counselling & Psychotherapy
Derek Flint Therapeutic Counselling provides support for mental wellbeing including Addiction Sex & Porn Addiction, Men's Mental Health, and Couples Counselling in West Malling, Edenbridge and Online Therapy.
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