Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Therapy
Counselling for Porn Addiction and Sex Addiction Therapy
Therapy doesn’t change who you are. It helps you understand yourself well enough to live more honestly.
Compulsive Sexual Behaviour - How I Can Help
I’m Derek Flint, an experienced addictions therapist and counsellor. I’ve been helping people work through addiction and related patterns of compulsive behaviour, for over a decade.
I also bring lived experience of addiction and recovery into my work. That means you won’t need to explain everything from scratch, and you won't feel judged.
Find out more about me here...
I’ve completed additional training to support people experiencing compulsive sexual activity (sometimes described as sex or porn addiction). In practice, that means working together to understand what’s driving the pattern, and finding realistic ways to change it so life feels more manageable and more fulfilling
I also work with partners, relatives, and couples who are affected by compulsive sexual behaviour. This can involve making sense of what’s happened, working through the impact, and deciding what moving forward might look like.
You can take this at your own pace - we don’t need to rush into anything before it makes sense. You can use this self-assessment for sex addiction or this assessment for porn problems to guide you and decide what to do next.
Private Counselling & Addiction Therapy in Kent & Online across the UK
Help for Compulsive Sexual Behaviour
Sometimes sexual behaviour can start to feel out of control or at odds with who you want to be. Perhaps you are :
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spending more time or money on sexual behaviour than you intended
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trying to stop or cut back, but finding yourself going back to it
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keeping things hidden or feeling a sense of secrecy around it
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noticing it beginning to affect your relationships, or day-to-day life
You find yourself repeating patterns you do not fully understand, even when part of you wants things to change. This can bring shame, frustration, secrecy, or distance in relationships.
Therapy provides the opportunity to step back and make sense of what is happening beneath the surface. Together, we can look at the patterns, understand what may be driving them, and begin to find a way forward that feels more in line with the life you want.
The sections below explain more about sex addiction and problem use of pornography, and financial domination or findom. It looks at how therapy can help you regain a greater sense of control by understanding what drives the behaviour in the first place.
If you aren't sure about whether you are in the right place, completing one of these self-assessments may help you decide your next steps. There is one for sexual activity or problem porn use.
When sexual behaviour starts to feel out of control
Sex is a healthy and important part of adult life, but for some people it can begin to feel difficult to manage. You may find yourself engaging in sexual behaviour in ways that feel compulsive, secretive, or out of proportion to what you actually want.
If you want more information to guide you, use this self-assessment to help you decide whether there is a problem, and what to do next.
If this feels familiar, therapy can help you understand the patterns involved and what may sit underneath them. Read more about sex addiction therapy and how counselling can help.
When pornography use becomes a problem
Pornography use affects people differently. For some, it may not feel problematic at all. For others, it can begin to escalate, feel difficult to control, or affect intimacy, confidence, or day-to-day life.
If you want more information you can use this porn use self-assessment to decide what to do next.
If pornography has started to feel like a problem, therapy can help you understand the urges, make sense of the pattern, and begin making changes that last. Read more about porn addiction counselling here.
There is a Solution:
If you are ready to understand what is going on and begin making real changes, therapy can help. You do not have to work this out on your own.
I can work with individuals & couples to provide relationship or marriage counselling for porn addiction and compulsive sexual activity, so you can work on repairing a relationship together, and re-build trust.
Some people may find they also experience difficulty with alcohol, drugs, gambling, or shopping online. Counselling helps these also.
I offer in person Sex and Porn Counselling in Kent and Porn Addiction Counselling online UK wide and abroad subject to local licencing procedures.
Choose what feels closest to your situation
Can Sex and Porn Really Be Addictive?
If you’re searching for help with porn addiction or something that feels out of control sexually, you’re not alone. You might already feel like it’s becoming difficult to manage. You might have tried to stop and found yourself going back to it. Or you might just know something doesn’t feel right anymore. You don’t need a clear label or diagnosis before reaching out. Whether you call it porn addiction, sex addiction, compulsive sexual behaviour, or simply a pattern you want to change, what matters is that it’s affecting you - and that you want things to be different. There is ongoing debate about the language used in this area. Some professionals question the term “addiction,” while others continue to use it because it reflects how many people experience what’s happening. In practice, therapy isn’t about getting the terminology exactly right. It’s about understanding what’s going on for you, and helping you find a way forward that feels more manageable and more in control. The terms “porn addiction” and “sex addiction” are widely used, even though they haven’t been formally recognised as diagnoses in the same way as substance addictions. The ICD-11 does include Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Disorder (CSBD), describing it as an impulse control difficulty, which has added to the mix of language rather than replacing it. Concerns about the word “addiction” are valid, particularly around shame or misunderstanding. At the same time, many therapists use it carefully because it’s the language people often arrive with when they’re struggling. In reality, these terms now sit alongside each other. Most people don’t search for “CSBD” when something feels wrong — they search for “porn addiction” or “sex addiction.” Using that language here is simply about making support easier to find. What matters most isn’t the label, but whether you feel understood and able to access support that helps you make the changes you’re looking for. You may also have come across phrases like “cure” or “treatment” for porn addiction. These are common search terms, even if they don’t fully capture the complexity of what’s going on. This site uses that language so people can find it, but the focus of therapy is on understanding your experience and working towards meaningful, lasting change. If you’d like to know more about how I approach this, you’re welcome to get in touch and we can explore whether this feels like the right fit for you.