Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Therapy
Counselling for Porn Addiction and Sex Addiction Therapy
Therapy doesn’t change who you are. It helps you understand yourself well enough to live more honestly.
The sections below provide links to different areas of Compulsive Sexual Activity like sex addiction, problematic porn use and findom and how therapy helps you change unwanted behaviours.
Compulsive Sexual Behaviour - How I Can Help
I’m Derek Flint, an experienced addictions therapist and counsellor. I’ve been helping people work through addiction and related patterns of compulsive behaviour, for over a decade.
I bring lived experience of addiction and recovery into my work, alongside additional training in compulsive sexual behaviour, porn addiction, sex addiction, and related issues like findom therapy.
I also support partners and couples affected by these patterns, working together to understand what’s going on and find realistic ways forward at a pace that feels right for you.
Many people come to therapy feeling stuck in patterns of sexual behaviour they have tried repeatedly to change, often carrying shame, self-criticism, and the sense that they should be able to manage it on their own. As our work progresses, they often describe feeling more understood, less alone with the struggle, and more able to make sense of what sits underneath the behaviour. For many, this increased understanding creates opportunities for meaningful and lasting change.
If you aren't sure about whether you are in the right place, completing one of these self-assessments that may help you decide your next steps. There is one for sexual activity or problem porn use.
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Private Counselling & Addiction Therapy in Kent & Online across the UK
Help for Compulsive Sexual Behaviour
Sometimes sexual behaviour can start to feel out of control or at odds with who you want to be. Perhaps you are :
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spending more time or money on sexual behaviour than you intended
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trying to stop or cut back, but finding yourself going back to it
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keeping things hidden or feeling a sense of secrecy around it
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noticing it beginning to affect your relationships, or day-to-day life
You may find yourself repeating patterns you do not fully understand, even when part of you wants things to change. Therapy can help you make sense of what sits beneath those patterns and begin finding a way forward that feels more in line with the life you want. There is also a short confidential self-assessment for compulsive sexual behaviour here, and a porn use self- assessment here - These are not diagnostic but, you can use the results to help build a clearer picture of what may be going on.
The sections below explain about therapy and sex addiction, problem use of pornography, and financial domination or findom. It looks at how therapy can help you regain a greater sense of control by understanding what drives the behaviour in the first place.
When sexual behaviour starts to feel out of control
Sex is a healthy and important part of adult life, but for some people it can begin to feel difficult to manage. You may find yourself engaging in sexual behaviour in ways that feel compulsive, secretive, or out of proportion to what you actually want.
If you want more information to guide you, use this confidential sexual activity self-assessment to help you decide whether there is a problem, and what to do next.
If this feels familiar, therapy can help you understand the patterns involved and what may sit underneath them. Read more about sex addiction therapy and how counselling can help.
When pornography use becomes a problem
Pornography use affects people differently. For some, it may not feel problematic at all. For others, it can begin to escalate, feel difficult to control, or affect intimacy, confidence, or day-to-day life.
If you want more information you can use this porn use self-assessment to decide what to do next.
If pornography has started to feel like a problem, therapy can help you understand the urges, make sense of the pattern, and begin making changes that last. Read more about porn addiction counselling here.
Financial Domination | Therapy & Help with Findom
Financial domination, often shortened to findom, can become difficult when it starts feeling compulsive, secretive, financially harmful, or hard to control. Therapy can help you understand what may be driving the behaviour, reduce shame, and begin making changes that feel more manageable and realistic.
There is a Solution:
If you are ready to understand what is going on and begin making real changes, therapy can help. You do not have to work this out on your own.
I offer in person counselling in Kent and porn addiction counselling online UK wide and abroad subject to local laws.
Get in touch for an informal discussion about how therapy may help. You can also use the WhatsApp button to arrange a free initial telephone consultation without completing the form.
Additional Areas of Therapy I Work With - or home
 Couples Therapy |  Young People & Drugs |  Alcohol Addiction Therapy |
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 Men's Therapy |  Problem Drug Use & Adiction |  Stress, Anxiety & Depression |
Can Sex and Porn Really Be Addictive?
If you’re searching for help with porn addiction or something that feels out of control sexually, you’re not alone. You might already feel like it’s becoming difficult to manage. You might have tried to stop and found yourself going back to it. Or you might just know something doesn’t feel right anymore. You don’t need a clear label or diagnosis before reaching out. Whether you call it porn addiction, sex addiction, compulsive sexual behaviour, or simply a pattern you want to change, what matters is that it’s affecting you - and that you want things to be different. There is ongoing debate about the language used in this area. Some professionals question the term “addiction,” while others continue to use it because it reflects how many people experience what’s happening. In practice, therapy isn’t about getting the terminology exactly right. It’s about understanding what’s going on for you, and helping you find a way forward that feels more manageable and more in control. The terms “porn addiction” and “sex addiction” are widely used, even though they haven’t been formally recognised as diagnoses in the same way as substance addictions. The ICD-11 does include Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Disorder (CSBD), describing it as an impulse control difficulty, which has added to the mix of language rather than replacing it. Concerns about the word “addiction” are valid, particularly around shame or misunderstanding. At the same time, many therapists use it carefully because it’s the language people often arrive with when they’re struggling. In reality, these terms now sit alongside each other. Most people don’t search for “CSBD” when something feels wrong — they search for “porn addiction” or “sex addiction.” Using that language here is simply about making support easier to find. What matters most isn’t the label, but whether you feel understood and able to access support that helps you make the changes you’re looking for. You may also have come across phrases like “cure” or “treatment” for porn addiction. These are common search terms, even if they don’t fully capture the complexity of what’s going on. This site uses that language so people can find it, but the focus of therapy is on understanding your experience and working towards meaningful, lasting change. If you’d like to know more about how I approach this, you’re welcome to get in touch and we can explore whether this feels like the right fit for you.