Therapeutic Counselling Tailored To You -
Helping You Find Solutions To The Challenges Of Life
Derek Flint Therapeutic Counselling provides support for your mental health and wellbeing with extensive experience and additional training helping clients with Alcohol and Drug Misuse, Sex & Porn Addiction, Men's Mental Health, and Couples Counselling in West Malling, Kent ; Carshalton, Surrey and Online.
I am passionate about helping people overcome challenges and lead a more satisfying and content life. I have many years of experience assisting people to find solutions to what life throws up. I offer a free 20-minute introduction to help you decide if you want to work with me and ask any questions you may have.
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My approach to counselling is to provide you with the trust and freedom to talk about what is happening and how it impacts you. I aim to help you find the solutions you need or want and work on how to achieve those. I work with all clients inclusively. I treat everything I am told as confidential and I am honest, respectful and understanding.
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I have been asked the question “What does therapy do” and, depending on what is happening for you and your own circumstances and motivations, there is no one size fits all answer. I work with you as an individual, made up of your own experiences, behaviours, thoughts and feelings. Whilst others may have gone through similar events to you, no one has experienced it in the same way.
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The starting point is to build a strong relationship by ensuring everything is to benefit you and by being honest. I treat everything as confidential, save for a few exceptions that are very rare, and I do not disclose anything you talk about to anyone else. As well as common mental health difficulties, I have additional training to help in the following areas.
Integrative Therapy
This type of Psychotherapy and Counselling brings together different approaches, tailored to you and helps address a range of issues more effectively than using only one approach. If you wish to know more or have a question about working in a specific way, please do get in touch by clicking the button below and completing the contact form.
You are not your behaviour. With the right support, it’s possible to understand the underlying reasons why we do what we do, and by knowing what is behind these behaviours we begin to build new ways of responding that are healthier, more empowering, and more aligned with who you really are.
Counselling for Men
Are you worried about your relationships or your behaviours? Have your family told you they are concerned about you? Are things overwhelming or coming on top? If you want to find out how it can change, get in touch here to book a free introductory call about how I can help.
Men may benefit from working with a male counsellor because it can create a sense of shared understanding. I have helped with depression counselling for men; men's anxiety counselling; individual marriage counselling; counselling porn therapy, counselling for alcohol abuse; counselling for gambling; help with issues in the family; sex addict therapy; relationships problems; feeling lonely in a relationship; psychsexual therapy & anger management in therapy.
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Maybe you are wondering things like:
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Where can I get help with anger management in therapy?
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Can I get help with how to fix a relationship?
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Why do I feel guilty all the time?
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What is wrong with me?
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Why do I feel like a bad person?
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Why do I hate myself so much?
Many men feel more comfortable opening up to someone who may have faced similar societal pressures or experiences as them.
Male counsellors may be able to empathically understand male vulnerability, helping clients feel understood and not judged.
Counselling helps men work through the stigma or fear of reaching out and to speak about what is happening.
While men may benefit by talking more about their feelings, therapy is not just about saying how they feel. It is about the need to be understood around deeply personal and intimate concerns. Anything that makes a man feel not good enough. It is about helping them according to their needs and from their perspective.
Men face many of the same mental health challenges as women but often cope in different ways. Men may suppress emotions, ignore problems, hope it goes away or mask their struggles with behaviours such as drink or drugs.
Alcohol Addiction, Drug Misuse & Compulsive Behaviour
Sometimes the things we turn to for comfort, control, or escape can begin to take over more of our lives than we’d like. Whether it's a substance or a behaviour, when something starts to feel out of control or brings shame, secrecy, or distress, it may be time to seek support.
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Do you find yourself searching the internet and asking AI things like:
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Why do I feel bad after sex?
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Why do I gamble?
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Why do I feel guilty after drinking?
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Why do I feel guilty after sex?
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​What is mentally wrong with me?
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How can I stop drinking so much?
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If you have decided now is the time to beat my addiction, therapy provides a safe, non-judgemental space to explore what’s driving these patterns and help you develop healthier, more balanced ways of coping.
I work with people experiencing a wide range of addictions and compulsive behaviours, and offer support preventing addiction relapse including:
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Behavioural Addictions – internet addiction, sex addiction, porn addiction, love and relationship dependency, gambling, online shopping addiction, food or eating struggles.
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Emotional Coping Patterns – compulsive exercise, perfectionism, procrastination, obsessive habits or routines, fear of failure or rejection.
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After Rehabilitation Care – explore what to do if you relapse, treatment for depression and alcoholism, getting through relapse in recovery, support with life after alcoholism, preventing drug relapse, exploring what to do after rehab.
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12 Step Programme UK – I have experience of this programme of recovery commonly used in 12 step groups like alcoholics anonymous, narcotics anonymous, cocaine anonymous, sex and love addictions anonymous and sex addicts anonymous where they hold 12 step meetings.
Support for Relationships and Couples Therapy Kent
All relationships go through difficult times, but when challenges feel ongoing or communication breaks down, it can be hard to find your way back to each other.
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Couples therapy Kent and relationship counselling offers a safe and supportive space to explore what's going on between you, without blame or judgement. Whether you're facing conflict, disconnection, infidelity, or major life transitions, therapy can help you understand each other more deeply, rebuild trust, intimacy and learn to communicate more openly.
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If you are worried about a relationship you may be looking for answers to questions like:
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Why do i dream that my boyfriend is cheating on me?
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How can i fix a broken relationship?
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I need help how to overcome jealousy in a relationship?
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Why do i dream my partner is cheating?
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How do you fix a relationship?
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Why do i want to cheat?
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You don’t have to wait until things feel broken. Relationship counselling Kent can strengthen your bond, improve emotional and physical intimacy, and help you reconnect with the reasons you chose each other in the first place.
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Whether you’re dating, living together, married, or separating, we’re here to support you both. Couples Counselling Cost can be found on the contact page where you will find the couple therapy price for this service.