Psychotherapeutic Counselling - Tailored To You
Derek Flint Therapeutic Counselling provides support for your mental health and wellbeing with extensive experience and additional training helping clients with Alcohol and Drug Misuse, Sexually Compulsive Behavior, Men and Mental Health, and Couples Counselling in West Malling, Kent ; Carshalton, Surrey and Online.
I am passionate about helping people overcome challenges and lead a more satisfying and content life. I have many years of experience assisting people to find solutions to what life throws up. I offer a free 20-minute introduction to help you decide if you want to work with me and ask any questions you may have.
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My approach to counselling is to build trust so you have the confidence and freedom to talk about what is happening for you and how it impacts you. I aim to help you find the solutions you need or want and work on how to achieve those. I work with all clients inclusively. I treat everything I am told as confidential and I am honest, respectful and understanding.
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I have been asked to explain how can counselling help, and depending on what is happening for you and your own circumstances and motivations, there is no one size fits all answer. I work with you as an individual, made up of your own experiences, behaviours, thoughts and feelings. Whilst others may have gone through similar events to you, no one has experienced it in the same way.
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The starting point is to build a strong relationship by ensuring everything is to benefit you and by being honest. I treat everything as confidential, save for a few exceptions, and I do not disclose anything you talk about to anyone else.
Integrative Therapy
This type of Psychotherapy and Counselling brings together different approaches, tailored to you and helps address a range of issues more effectively than using only one approach. If you wish to know more or have a question about working in a specific way, please do get in touch by clicking the button below and completing the contact form.
You are not your behaviour. With the right support, it’s possible to understand the underlying reasons why we do what we do, and by knowing what is behind these behaviours we begin to build new ways of responding that are healthier, more empowering, and more aligned with who you really are.
Mental Health Wellbeing
Counselling and Psychotherapy - Support for Common Mental Health Difficulties
Many people seek therapy because something in their life no longer feels manageable. This might show up as anxiety, low mood, stress, anger, shame, or a sense of being stuck, even when things look fine on the outside. For some, it’s tied to patterns around alcohol, drugs, or compulsive behaviours. For others, it’s more about self-worth, perfectionism, procrastination, imposter syndrome, or ongoing relationship and family difficulties.
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Why do I feel anxious and low even when my life seems fine?
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Why do I feel so guilty all of the time?
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Why can’t I stop procrastinating?
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Can I get help with anger management in therapy?
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How do I know if I have attachment issues or codependency?
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Why do I feel like a fraud at work or in relationships?
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Can anxiety, depression, or trauma cause my bad behaviour?
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How do I set boundaries without feeling selfish or guilty?
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Why do relationships trigger my anger or fear of abandonment?
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Can therapy help if I don’t know exactly what’s wrong?
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Why do I struggle to say no?
I work with these behaviours and feelings as well as many others. Therapy is where you can explore what’s driving these patterns, behaviours and feelings, understand how they developed, and what they’re trying to help with. This might include work around trust, attachment, codependency, boundaries, or the impact of past experiences, alongside practical ways of coping with everyday pressures.
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Sessions are offered face to face, online, or in a hybrid format, and don’t have to follow a rigid weekly structure. We can work short or longer term, at a pace that fits alongside work, relationships, finances, and family life, while still allowing room for meaningful and sustainable change.
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If you want to find out more about how therapy can help, arrange a free initial consultation by filling out the contact form clicking this link here
Relationship Counselling Kent & Online
All relationships and marriages can go through difficult times, but when challenges feel ongoing or communication breaks down, it can be hard to find your way back to each other.
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Couples therapy Kent and relationship counselling offers a safe and supportive space to explore what's going on between you, without blame or judgement. Whether you're looking for marriage counselling for infidelity, counselling for marriage break up, wondering can relationship counselling work, therapy can help you understand each other more deeply, rebuild trust, intimacy and learn to communicate more openly.
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If you are worried about a relationship you may be looking for answers to questions like:
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Why do i dream that my boyfriend is cheating on me?
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How can i fix a broken relationship?
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I need help how to overcome jealousy in a relationship?
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Where can I get marriage counselling for infidelity?
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How do you fix a relationship?
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Can counselling for marriage break up help?
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Does relationship counselling work?
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Can relationship problems therapy get things back on track?
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Can I have relationship counselling for individuals?
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You don’t have to wait until things feel broken. Relationship counselling Kent can strengthen your bond, improve emotional and physical intimacy, and help you reconnect with the reasons you chose each other in the first place.
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Whether you’re dating, living together, married, or separating, or wondering what the success rate of marriage counselling is, help is available. To find out if I can help get in touch for marriage counselling advice as to whether it can help you.
Mental Health Services for first responders
I have over 30 years experience of working with emergency service professionals, including firefighters, police officers, and paramedics in the UK. I am uniquely placed to understand the types of pressure and impact this can bring through my own experience, witnessing this from within and outside these organisations.
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Metropolitan Police from the 1990's until 2020's
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As an approved therapist for The Police Firearms Officers Association - PFOA
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Providing Counselling and Psychotherapy in lockdown via Frontline19
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As a Psychotherapist working with South East Coast Ambulance personnel - SECAMB
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In my private practice, I have provide therapeutic counselling for police officers, ambulance, paramedics, NHS staff and firefighters.
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Counselling and Psychotherapy via Trojan Wellbeing
First responders carry more than the calls they answer. The constant exposure to trauma, high-pressure decisions, long shifts, and public scrutiny can take a real toll over time. Our mental health services for first responders and emergency services personnel are built around the unique realities of the job. Whether you’re facing burnout, anxiety, depression, PTSD, or just feeling worn down, we provide a space where you can speak openly with someone who understands the culture and demands of your work.
I support paramedics mental health needs after critical incidents, cumulative trauma, and compassion fatigue. We work closely with police and mental health concerns such as operational stress, hypervigilance, and the impact of shift work on family life. We also focus on the mental health of firefighters, including the effects of repeated exposure to crisis scenes and the pressure to always stay strong. Our approach is practical, confidential, and tailored to the challenges you face both on and off duty.
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In addition to individual counseling, we connect clients with trusted mental health resources for law enforcement and other emergency services professionals. Early support can make a meaningful difference in performance, relationships, and long-term wellbeing.
Counselling for Men
Are you worried about your relationships or your behaviours? Have your family told you they are concerned about you? Are things overwhelming or coming on top? If you want to find out how it can change, get in touch here to book a free introductory call about how I can help.
Men may benefit from working with a male counsellor because it can create a sense of shared understanding. I have helped with depression counselling for men; men's anxiety counselling; individual marriage counselling; counselling porn therapy, counselling for alcohol abuse; counselling for gambling; help with issues in the family; sex addict therapy; relationships problems; feeling lonely in a relationship; psychsexual therapy & anger management in therapy.
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Maybe you are wondering things like:
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Where can I get help with anger management in therapy?
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Can I get help with how to fix a relationship?
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Why do I feel guilty all the time?
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What is wrong with me?
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Why do I feel like a bad person?
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Why do I hate myself so much?
Many men feel more comfortable opening up to someone who may have faced similar societal pressures or experiences as them.
Male counsellors may be able to empathically understand male vulnerability, helping clients feel understood and not judged.
Counselling helps men work through the stigma or fear of reaching out and to speak about what is happening.
While men may benefit by talking more about their feelings, therapy is not just about saying how they feel. It is about the need to be understood around deeply personal and intimate concerns. Anything that makes a man feel not good enough. It is about helping them according to their needs and from their perspective.
Men face many of the same mental health challenges as women but often cope in different ways. Men may suppress emotions, ignore problems, hope it goes away or mask their struggles with behaviours such as drink or drugs.